Ghanaian counselor, Counselor Adofoli has shared some insights into what most married women fear.
He shared this in a recent post he made on his official social media handle on the popular social media platform, Facebook.
The post he made reads;
“THE FEAR OF THE MARRIED WOMAN
Written by Counselor Adofoli
I was shocked when a single lady told me, her friends and sisters have all distanced themselves from her because she is not married. Each time she tried getting closer, the reaction she got was so bad; they are afraid she will steal their husbands and that is why they try to distance themselves from her. Meanwhile she has not dated or had any relationship with any married man before and never will.
I asked her “are these married friends and sisters of yours married to children who don’t know what they want and can easily be stolen or kidnapped?” Today, going through my social media feed, I am beginning to understand why these friends and siblings are thinking so. I am beginning to understand their fears.
I see single ladies bragging about the source of their money, wealth and success, attributing it to an affair they had with a married man. Many of these ladies seem to be more powerful than the woman the man married. Some are richer than the wife of the man. Some of the married women just have to endure their marriage and pray their husbands return to them safely each night without sickness etc. The thief has taken over the farm from the owner, what a sad reality.
To some, the only means to take care of their bills, children and responsibilities is to entertain their husband pleaser (side-chick) else they risk losing the marriage or the relationship. Lots of married women are living with the fear that their man may totally forget about their vows, how far they have come and the relationship they have.
Dear Single lady, you cannot enjoy your marriage if you are the source of pain in someone’s marriage or the reason their relationship ended. Don’t expect to keep the man if you stole him. You cannot plant yam and reap corn. If you don’t respect the sanity of marriage as a sacred relationship, you cannot enjoy your marriage.
Imagine how you would feel when the married man you are seeing, is talking to other women. You become more jealous and insecure than the woman he is married to. You go crazy when you see him having what he is having with you, with another lady. But you care less of the pain you are causing his wife.
Money is good but it’s not the means to everything, it’s not the answer to everything. Relationship is more powerful than money. If you destroy someone’s relationship for money, you won’t enjoy your relationship in peace; because you have sown war in the heart of someone and you will have a harvest of war.
We are created in the image and the likeliness of God, to be a light to others. We are blessed to be a blessing to others. It’s a curse to do otherwise. The fact that he loves you, enjoys your company doesn’t make him a happy person. What he is missing is at home and not on the street. I am sorry to tell you, you are just a painkiller he is using. If he truly wants to be happy, heal his marriage or relationship, he should learn to love the woman he married. That is how he becomes happy.
In conclusion, “Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised” – Proverbs 31:30 (TLB).”